Happy Friday!!! It is almost officially the weekend! I wanted to pop on here
today and give a little update on our lack-of-ability-to-get-pregnant
situation. This month officially makes 3 years of trying to conceive. I
swear, when I say it in my head it doesn't sound nearly as long as when I say it
out loud!! For awhile now we have been talking about making an appointment with
the RE (reproductive endocrinologist), but for whatever reason we have not made
the appointment. I think it has to do with the financial aspect (don't even get
me STARTED on how expensive fertility treatment is!) combined with not wanting
to admit that we might actually need help getting pregnant. Well yesterday we
finally decided that it was time. We have officially sent our new patient
application over and we are waiting for a call to set up our initial
consultation. Scary, right?
Right now my emotions are a huge
jumbled mess. I am beyond thrilled at the idea of finally meeting with someone
and potentially finding a solution that will help us get pregnant. At the
same time, I am so worried that they are going to find some crazy problem that
we didn't know about that is preventing us from getting pregnant. My biggest
fear is that we will go through all of the additional testing, try out
treatment after treatment and 3 years from now we are in the same position,
only broke. Is that worse than the position we are in now? At least now we have
a tiny glimmer of hope that something out there will work. What if we go
through everything and that hope is gone? What if we spend our life savings and
every treatment fails? There is less than a 20% success rate with IUI---there's
more of a chance of success trying naturally each month!!! I remember the
hope we used to have, in the very beginning, when we swore that this was our
month, every month. Will that false hope come back, and will each month be an
even bigger let down? Or do we go into it knowing that there is a HUGE chance
that it won't work?
I know everything that I am
saying sounds more negative than positive, and I don't want to come off like I
am dreading the process. Because I'm not. If it will help us in our TTC journey
and bring us closer to becoming parents, then I am 100% on board. I am willing
to save money, undergo injections, ultrasounds and egg retrievals, and do pretty
much anything within reason to get pregnant. To anyone who has never had a
problem getting pregnant, I envy you!
For whatever reason we were
dealt this hand, and month after month we are making the best of it. If I
can accomplish one thing with today's post, let it be this: Next time you want
to strangle your kids for spilling milk on the floor, next time you look down
in disgust at the stretch marks across your belly, and next time you dream of
what your life would be like without kids, just take 30 seconds to think about
something. There are people out there who would give up anything in the world
to be right where you are. Women who would welcome morning sickness and stretch
marks with open arms. Women who dream of cleaning up messes and waiting at the
bottom of the playground slide. Women who would do anything to feel that first
tiny kick, hear that amazing heartbeat and look down to see the most beautiful
face they had ever imagined.
Thank you for listening to my
vent and making it to the end of today's post. I know it is much more intense
than usual but some days I feel like if I don't get my feelings out, I'm going
to burst into a million tiny pieces!
I hope you had a great week!
Some really informative infertility links:
- http://www.resolve.org/infertility101 (Basic understanding of the disease of infertility.)
- http://www.resolve.org/national-infertility-awareness-week/about.html (About NIAW)
I love this. So many people do not conceive right away, for so many reasons. We have not had trouble so far, but plenty of our friends have or are still struggling with it. Your insights about the couples who would welcome even the less-fun aspects of parents are so sweet, and very true. It makes me more thankful for every part of motherhood, because it is such a wonderful thing.
ReplyDeleteYou guys will get there! You're taking the right steps by seeking out information about what could be standing in the way and what you can do about it. We know a couple who was married in 2009 and tried for about three years on their own with no success. They saw specialists around 2012 and I don't know specifics about what steps they took, but they are now due later this month! :) (I am reasonably sure they did not do IVF or anything else too costly, so this should give you hope!)
I can't imagine how frustrating this is. I'm itching for a baby too, but knowing I probably could get pregnant again makes the waiting less difficult at times. Stay positive! You will get your baby! :)
Thank you hun you are so sweet!! We are trying to stay as positive as possible-we hear success stories all the time just like your friends so it gives us hope!
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